The Sweet Rice Chronicles

Entries tagged as ‘blasian’

DNA and Race – Black or Asian?

Wed 17 Dec 08 · 1 Comment

DNA and racial identification.
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/04/12/us/12genes.html? _r=1

The idea that people are using DNA results to qualify for affirmative action, college admissions and scholarships and membership in wealthy casino tribes.

There’s alot of comments going back and forth in one of the mixed race groups I’m part of online. At first whenever convos start on whether affirmative action is a good or bad thing I could only think of myself. I mean hell yeah it’s a good thing if it gives me an extra boost in areas where being “black” meant being passed over or limited. Now after having my son my views on affirmative action has expanded in an unexpected way.

A few months ago one of my sisters bf, Kevin had some very interesting things to say about Daniel and my insistence that he can claim being black. Seems Kevin thinks if Daniel doesn’t look black then no one will think he is. He felt that Daniel will never be allowed into…

    - The projects…unless he’s delivering food
    - Basketball court…unless he’s with black friends.
    - Howard University…unless he can prove his blackness by taking me along

Now, I tend to take uneducated comments like this in stride. No sense trying to explain something’s to some people. But it did make me wonder about colleges and such. I mean of course I want Daniel to go to college but it’s not cheap so I can use all the help I can get right? But what happens after filling out the applications, getting all the required paperwork and Daniel has to go in for the face to face interview? Will they say he’s a faker to the claim of “black-hood”? Can he claim protection under the umbrella of affirmative action? What happens when having 50% of black blood doesn’t show? Will Daniel have to walk around with DNA evidence to not only prove that he’s black but he’s also entitled to all the rights that come with it…if he chooses to claim them that is. He might just claim to be Asian and get into college that way. Shyt, No problems there right?

Hmm, I only have questions with no answers…but maybe Daniel and I will have to make our own answers.

Categories: Blogging · mothering · multiracial
Tagged: , , , , , , , ,

Raising a Baby Black vs Asian

Tue 30 Sep 08 · 1 Comment

PhotobucketToday Daniel and I went to NJ to visit with Ketty, John and the family. After running around with the kids, having a family meal and bugging John a bit we settled to sleep happily along with another blasian family.  

 

In the morning Ketty and I took the path train into the city.  During the drive we started talking about race issues.  As usual we came across a point we disagreed on. I want to raise Daniel with a strong black sense while she feels I should raise him mixed.  My argument?  Most people don’t see Daniel as “black”. Even Ketty and John said he looks totally asian…that he has nothing for me.  Since people will treat and react to him as he’s NOT black or even mixed, bi-racial, etc, I feel I have to take a strong stand to say he IS black and it’s ok.  Ketty feels I don’t have to do anything, that seeing me everyday will show and teach him about blackness. I think she’s wrong…what Daniel will see is that I’m his mother and by extension that I am a black women.  He will not know he IS a black man and does not have to be ashamed of it.  

 

Back in the city while waiting at BK for breakfast this black women came up to me and of course ask…”Is that your baby? Boy or girl?” These questions have become standard so I can answer on autopilot…meaning not paying attention. Besides Daniel was being cute and I wanted to play with him. Still this woman wasn’t satisfied. She then asked “did you have him or adopted him?” She got my attention quickly and not in a good way…I answered very quick with “I HAD him!!!”  

 

I guess my answer must have had some attitude with it cause she went on the defensive saying…”some people adopt them ya know.”  I wanted to point out how much he looks like me but like most people she can’t see past the skin tone. I just left with a “I had him naturally and he’s mine” comment and walked away with my giggly baby.  That’s the first time I heard that but if this strange women felt the need to ask then I’m figuring it won’t be the last time.

Categories: family · mothering · multicultural · multiracial
Tagged: , , , ,

The First Blog

Tue 11 Mar 08 · Leave a Comment

A few years ago when Tiger Woods spawned the phrase “Cablinasian” many African Americans became insulted.

“Who does he think he is?  He thinks he can just rename himself?  He’s black just like us; when America sees him they don’t see “cablinasian, they see a black man.”

But to many Asian Americans, Tiger Woods is one of them.   Perhaps he wouldn’t be seen as Asian if he wasn’t the top golfer in America right now, but for now he is claimed by both sides and seen by both sides as more one than the other.

So who can claim Tiger’s racial soul?

I guess not Tiger, since he already stated both and both sides have decided not to listen to him.  I would like to float the idea it’s his parents.

It’s  through our parents where we first learn about the world and then, consequently, ourselves.   In most cultures mothers are the caregivers; they cook the food, take care of the house and most often take the children to their after school activities.  Since mothers spend more time with the children than fathers, they are the ones to guide and discipline.  In these ways the mother passes along her culture to her children. 

Fathers are by no means to be discounted.  Through their interaction and guidance with their children they help influence how the child sees him/herself.

So which way is it?  And why can’t it be both?

“I personally check both boxes,” said Ai-Ling Jamilah Malone in an article in the Oakland Tribune last year.  Malone is a 21-year-old University of California, Berkeley graduate with a Chinese mother and African American father.  She gives an anology of being both when people ask what are you.  She says to think of your sister who, in addtion is also a daughter.

“People ask, do you feel more like a daughter or more like a sister?” Malone explained.

“You say, no, it’s always both. It’s really not that hard a concept to understand.”

Some think that claiming both sides is misguided. 

“It may be in vogue to do that, but all of these are social constructions,” Dr. Larry Davis said to the Pittsburgh Post Gazette.  Dr. Davis is the director of the University of Pittsburgh’s Center on Race and Social Problems. “African-Americans are really exactly that: Africans in America. It is who we are, even if there are some who want to get away from the title by trying to create a new group so as not to suffer negative consequences. It’s been said that this country has biracial children but only black adults.”

“There’s another quote I like to use,” he added. ” ‘Reality will tolerate fantasy but won’t spare it.’ The vast majority of African- Americans, in terms of responses from the larger society, will be perceived in existing categories. When that white cop stops you at 11 o’clock at night, he’s not going to ask you about your ancestry.”

Not every biracial or multiracial child looks black.  From the many blasian children that I have seen, a lot of them look Asian. 

But with appearance aside, who gets to decide whose heritage gets discounted?  I know I would feel hurt if my child came home and said that everything that I was didn’t matter so why wouldn’t my husband feel the same way.

Besides, I would want more for my child than just a racial identity.  Their racial make-up is a part of them, but it shouldn’t define them. 

That idea is one of the underlying notes of Senator Barack Obama’s campaign.  The child of a black African father and white American mother, Obama talks about his dual race in his book “Dreams of My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance”.  Salon writer George Kamiya, who is also biracial (half Japanese/half White) noted how both he and Obama took different roads to come to the same conclusion.

The larger truth is that Obama is carving out a new racial terrain in America. The overall movement of the book (Dreams of My Father) is toward colorblindness. He is a living demonstration of how a universalist ethics can coexist with, and be larger than, a particularist one.

This sentiment may express where a lot of Americans are at this point in time.  Only racialpragmatists hold that the sum of a person is equal to their race.  As a mother I want my children to be seen for who they are.  At first glance who would know that my monoracial daughter was an A-student or my Korean looking son is setting sports records at school?  Looking at them and then assigning them to a racial category doesn’t tell you everything.  We need to see more than just a person’s race to see the individual.

So let Tiger call himself cablinasian if he wants to.  Hopefully by the time his daughter attends high school there will be no little sqaures she has to box herself into.

Categories: Blogging
Tagged: ,